How Soon Should You Begin Dating After Getting Dumped?

This is a very common problem for many of us. Getting dumped hurts a lot. But one wants to go back to good life as early as possible, if for nothing than to forget the earlier pain. But since the pain remains and the thought of being hit again is overwhelming, it becomes difficult to decide.

When should one go back to dating scene after getting dumped? The answer for this question will vary from individual to individual. If your earlier partnership lasted for few months, you can recover sooner, but if the earlier partnership lasted for some years, it takes a lot more time to get prepared mentally to go back to the dating scene. The old wounds take a lot more time to heal, and sometimes they may never heal. If at this point of time, you manage to get a dating partner who understands and helps you come out of the memories, you are very lucky.

When you seriously date someone, you get involved. You plan for the future and you are recognized as a regular date of that person amongst your friends. You also give your trust to that person. You care for him/her and make many sacrifices to keep the relationship going. You dream of a bright future ahead and even make every move with consultation. This makes you both very involved with each other. If at this point, you are dumped, you will take lot of healing to come over the bitterness. You might have lost your faith in the opposite sex. So what is to be done?

Involve yourself with your work. Take up a new hobby. Make new friends. Join a club. Go around and enjoy the nature. And whenever you feel the pain of earlier love, feel it intensely. It does not help to push those feelings behind. They will remain there to resurface again. So feel every pain and cry over the loss if necessary. Express the anger and the bitterness. Cleanse yourself as much as possible of the memories.

After you are sure that you have regained your emotional stability, go back to the dating scene. If you find some one interesting with understanding, tell all after few meetings and ask for help and love in return of love. God willing, you will get it.

Secrets Of Seduction – Using Humor As Your Secret Weapon

You’ve approached the object of your desires. You’ve got a first date. How do you carry it off and make sure she’s “hooked” on you?

I’ll let you in on the Master Seducer’s secret – humor.

If you can make a girl laugh and giggle, then most of the hard work of seduction is done. Why? Because laughing makes people happy – it releases endorphin in the brain which make us feel good. And we like being around people who make us feel good (makes sense, doesn’t it).

It is also the best form of relaxation – laughing is known to lower the heart rate. And if a girl feels happy and relaxed in your presence on a first date, then your 90% there.

It’s natural on a first date for the barriers to be up – she will be mentally screening you, checking you out. It can make for a very nervy encounter on both sides. But with the use of humor  you make her smile, make her laugh and she becomes relaxed and open. And that should be your goal for a first date.

So how should you use humor?

Well, I’m not advocating you be a clown. Don’t go overboard, and don’t just mindlessly memorize loads of jokes and reel them off – if she’d wanted to go and see a stand up comedian, she wouldn’t be on a date with you would she?

A few jokes are ok – pick yourself up a good joke book, or look online. Find a handful of good jokes and memorize them. Throw in one or two slightly risque ones if you feel she is warming to you (but not overly smutty or chauvinistic)

Joke about your environment – the surroundings you are in.

Tell her funny stories and anecdotes about your past, your work, your experiences. Prepare in advance and think of these things in advance.

Watch comedies on television and hire some comedy and stand up comedy DVD’s. These will give you a few funny sketches you can reel off, plus they will help you “tune in” to being funny.

Remember, your aim when using humor is to make her smile, laugh and relax. You should be able to quickly assess what kind of things make her laugh and adjust your humor accordingly. You don’t want her rolling around on the floor, crying with laughter.

Learn how to put a woman at ease with humor and you will never have a problem seducing the woman of your dreams.